Stress fracture
You know, you get to a point when everything gets on top of you.
Being positive goes a long way but eventually all the sludge begins to seep through the cracks.
Staying positive can be hard and what’s more, when you whine, people switch off.
There are few people who can be there for you when the chips are down.
I’m sick
and I’m tired, so tired.
I’ve had this eye thing going on for a while now, pain and blurred vision on the right side.
I put it down to stress.
I went to the eye doctor who couldn’t find anything wrong, so I pushed it to the back of my mind, along with the anaemia that I have been struggling with for the last six months.
I booked an appointment to see a doctor but I had to cancel it
because Ivy was unwell and she and all of the other kids come before me
besides that, it was just stress.
Right?
Three times I cancelled.
Last week I went deaf in my right ear.
I can’t hear anything on that side,
actually, that’s not true
I can hear muffled sounds but nothing
clear
and it is freaking me out, along with the eye thing and the anaemia
and the left sided tingling that has just started.
My mother and my mother in law are upset with me.
My mum especially so.
She says I need to look after myself
and I do
I know I do, I know she’s right
but I’m the last one to get a look in when it comes down to it.
I’m officially scared enough to try for the doctor again.
I know I don’t feel so good at the moment.
I just hope it’s something as simple as stress.
oh tiff , i hope all is well . when are you going to the doctors . ? mum’s can;t get sick there is to many people reyling on them .
if you need a hand please , please ask . i am only a phone call away .
thinking of you luv alisa
I “know” the kids comes first, cause I am the same with my kids vs me going to the Dr. But, at the end of the day, if we fall apart or we are too sick to look after them, that is worse than taking the time to go the Dr’s so we can be the best we can be – for them and for us.
I think as Mums we tend to think it is selfish to take time out for ourselves, even if its something not so exciting like going to the Dr, but really we are being selfless to do these things.
Please take the time and go. Get everything checked and at least put your mind at rest so that you can concentrate on what you need to do.
And look after yourself. Please
Oh Tiff, I’m so sorry to hear this. You *definitely* should get it checked out. Whatever it is, it needs attention. I’ll be thinking of you & hoping it does turn out to be stress related. (I know that sounds like a weird thing to wish, but you get where I’m coming from, I’m sure).
hope you feel better soon, and that its something easy to recover from. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts.
get thee to a doctor girly!!!!!!!
NOW!!!!!!!!!
hugs
Tiff sending love and prayers your way! So sorry that you have all of this going on. I too understand the need to put our children first, but you have and now you need to take care of yourself. It will be ok!!! Hugs!!!
Sometimes you have to put yourself first, in order for you to be able to put the kids first.
Massive hugs and well wishes xxx
Thinking of YOU, Tiff. I hope you get to a doctor as soon as possible and feel better!
Oh dear, not good.
You have to look after yourself Tiff. I know it’s easier said than done but you gotta luvie. Lotsa hugs.
Get thee to a doctor woman – now!
It could be any number of things, but I hope it’s only stress. Heaven knows, you’ve certainly got enough to be stressed about. But stop cancelling doctor’s appointments and GO!! You need to be well. You’re the glue that holds the family together.
Two things a dear friend would say to me in your situation: one, you can’t care for your family if you are not well and two, do you have time to be dead? I know the second one sounds a little harsh. She would only say it when I said that my daughter’s illness/appointments were keeping me so busy that I didn’t have time to go to the doctor. Your family needs you and they need you healthy. Take care of you.
Oh dear. I don’t want to be alarmist but you know (probably better than most) that these symptoms should not be ignored any longer. I totally understand that it is easy to put yourself last. I am as guilty as the next person of that but please try to take care.
Oh my goodness Tiff, I hope you get a doctors appt very soon. I’m sure it is stress related but better to get it checked. I hope you’re ok and this strain starts to lift soon.
I am a very long way away but I’m here for you in an interwebs sort of way. I don’t think you’re a whiner and I definitely listen when you speak. (((hugs)))
Go to the doctor. I say this as one who sympathises but is also a firm believer we cannot be good parents to our children if we aren’t good caregivers of ourselves. I know it’s easier said than done, but do it anyway. And big hugs xxxxx
Jeez woman get to the bloody doctor right now this minute. Well first thing tomorrow morning. But do it! Or I will growl at you and use my Mother’s voice.
Oh Tiff get that doctors appointment as soon as possible. Dont put yourself last, you are too important to too many people.
You need to be at your healthiest to be able to put your kids first, so get yourself to that doc’s hun. You’ll feel less anxious once you’ve been than the worry you’re going through now not knowing.
*hugs* xxx
Can I help? xxx
Hugs hon. And of course your mum is mad at you! You’re HER little girl, HER Ivy. So get checked out. I’ll have my fingers crossed that everything turns out ok.
I am so sorry you to have to experience all of this on top of the worries about Ivy.Huge gentle hugs my friend.
I haven’t asked you again about your eye & ear because I know myself how easy it is to deny there is anything there.
Look after yourself (hugs) and please get yourself checked. I am going to…one day.
This all sounds so scary! I’m so sorry this is all going on and I hope you get to the doctor quickly.
Your mother is right to worry. Wouldn’t you if it were Ivy? You’re a super mom, Tiff, and you seem to be able to climb mountains in situations that would leave me at the bottom staring up at what seems impossible. Take care of yourself, though. You must. That team of kiddos that depend on you need you well. Call the doctor! We’re all here to keep you going…..
I am so sorry about your ear honey… please get into the doctor and let us know what you find out. My husband always tells me that I cannot take proper care of Cody (and Damian and Lilly) if I am not, myself well…. and I do agree but I completely understand how you are. I never make it to the doctor… I am last on my list and let things get really bad before I give in and go. You and I need to try to be better and take care of ourselves!!! It should be our New Years Resolution! ;o)
Love and hugs!
Please please please get to the doctor! I know exactly how it is, I have the same problem (looking after others and not myself), I’ve got health issues I’ve deferred for far too long. I just want to come there and give you a big hug, we both need it. I promise I will come to you as soon as I can.
I think about you every day. Hugs and love from the other side of the world, chilly Chicago brrrrr!
Love,
Liz
I sure hope you go to the doctor today. Please keep us updated. Yes, we pray for the kids, but it’s also YOU we care about.
Look after yourself woman.
If you are not satisfied with a diagnosis when you see the doctor, you will need to get a second opinion to resolve this. If this is really stress related, I don’t know how it can be treated apart from a holiday, which I know is not possible for you at this time. However, I DO know this, that these are not good signs and by ignoring them, they will not go away & will only cause you more stress. Your body is telling you that you need to take stock and respond to the warnings. In a way, I hope that these symptoms are not just stress related, and that there is something else going on that can be treated. Either way, you need a definite answer, so that you can continue to care, so lovingly, for the kids in the manner to which they have become accustomed. There is help available, if needed, you know. xoxo
Get yourself to a bloody doctor woman! Yes I do understand how difficult that is, and why/how you are last on the list…but you MUST get these things checked out. And regardless what is causing the symptoms, they need to be dealt with. Your family needs you to be as healthy as you can. You need you to be healthy. Oh my heart goes out to you. Wish there was something I could do to help you, and your family. You need lots of support, you really have so much on your shoulders.
HUGS
Jennette
Thinking of you….
I read this quote yesterday and it’s stuck in my head of late… “Looking after yourself is the second best thing you can do for your children”… I assume the first is loving them and you have that down pat….
I hope this is something minor Tiff. I know you already have enough on your plate. Let us know what you find out please, and my prayers are going up for all of you.
Do you think you might have picked up an infection on that side from Ivy perhaps? I wonder.
You know I am here for you if you wanna talk babe.
Any time.
Cause I understand.
Wow. Hope you get to the bottom of it. And that you get some sleep soon. Otherwise I really will save up for that walking frame for ya.
xx
I know your first instinct, like any great mother, is take care of the kids. But how would you take care of the kids if your health is compromised? Get your butt to a doctor, woman. NOW.
Have you made an appointment yet?
*I’m using the voice my mum uses when she’s very serious, but wants to act like she’s kidding*
GET YOURSELF TO THE DOCTOR RIGHT THIS INSTANT!
You matter. Of course your children come first, and of course their needs always outweigh what you need… but get yourself in NOW.
please?
So have you been to the doctor yet? hmmmm
Well no more posts have popped into my reader. So now I am wondering how you are doing. This is not a comment to say blog to let us know as that can be a stress in itself thinking oh God people I don’t even know are pressurising me to post now. This doesn’t apply to me obviously as I just have a little blog with few followers!
I am just commenting to say I hope you are ok on the otherside of the world & that you have gone to see the doctor.
Take care.