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Lily Lionheart.
November 10th, 2009 by Tiff

Some days are just big.

You know?

Defining moments.

I don’t write about Lily very much here.

I don’t because,

well, because she is such an easy going kid.

An everyday, average  kid

and

I’m sorry to say,

she

blends.

With all of the other strong personalities living in the house sometimes Lily is the last one to be heard.

Somedays not so much but mostly

she just is.

I’m not saying that she is any less important or that I love her any less than any of the others because that is not the case at all.

She has a gorgeous quirky spirit and I am lucky to be her Mum.

The thing is

when you are the blending, background kind of child sometimes

you get left behind

and there is my defining moment.

I never meant it to be that way

but

sometimes

it just is.

Yesterday,

after IVIG had been infused into the little girl, entirely too fast

and the side effects started early

and I came home with one screaming preschooler

and was then loved on by every other member of the family so much so that I could not think straight,

my middle girl quietly cuddled into me,

amongst the crying and the loud conversation and the noise of the house

(which was insanely loud for 5pm).

She asked one question

and that was to enquire if she could possibly have the day off from school the following day.

I instantly retorted in the negative

and when I looked down into her face,

she was crying

big soft tears filling her eyes and splashing onto her cheeks.

It took my breath away.

She looked so sad.

I asked what the matter was

and she told me

 that she would not be allowed to run for school leader because she had not gained enough points for a gold medal.

The point system is based on behaviour and homework and she was five points from the goal

and in that instant

I knew

I had totally let her down -

because she is not the squeaky wheel and

because I have been so caught up with Ivy

I haven’t balanced things well at all.

I can write a letter and plead her case

but I’m not sure it’s the right thing to do.

Some lessons are hard

and I think we’ve both learnt something valuable.

I need to pay more attention,

so my Lily in the middle doesn’t get left behind

and she needs to be responsible for her life and work to her goals

but today

she’s having the day off

and we are going to spend time together.

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22 Responses  
Alison (134 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 6:46 am

Only you can make me cry before 7:30am.
Beautiful and heartfelt, Tiff. And I’m sure Lily knows it.
Enjoy your day together xxxx

SassyCupcakes (28 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 7:20 am

I hope you and Lily have a great day together.

peskypixies (51 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 7:23 am

awwwwwwwwwww hug that girl from me.

Had a fab day together.

more hugs

Martin (23 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 7:24 am

Enjoy your day together.

Frankly, that system sounds a little odd.

Melanie @ Whimsical Creations (12 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 7:39 am

Hope you had a beautiful day together. Sounds like both of you deserved a special day together.

Tricia (46 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 8:58 am

I hope your day was wonderful. Good job, mom. May God bless your entire family.

Amy writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 9:25 am

Enjoy your day. Sorry Lil didn’t get her medal.

Marylin (120 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 9:33 am

Oh Lily sweetheart, I hope you and your mum had a great day off. *hugs* from Scotland xx

Hyphen Mama (281 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 11:27 am

I hope your day off together was fabulous….and full of cuddles. I don’t know how you do it, Tiff. I only have 2, and I always manage to leave somebody behind.

PlanningQueen (54 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 1:44 pm

Just a completely honest and beautiful post. Made me cry, because I think like all mums, I know I have had moments like this too. Hope you had a sensational day.

Janet (17 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 3:40 pm

100% We all do the same thing - I only have one daughter, but there are times when life catches you up and you have so much to do, and …. you forget! Such a special relationship you have - enjoy your day together! :)

river writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 3:55 pm

You’ve brought tears to my eyes. I agree with Martin, that system IS odd. Why have a certain number of points to be able to run? That doesn’t seem fair at all. Of course being school leader probably isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Hugs to Lily. We out here all love you.

Bugger on the IVIG going in too fast. Haven’t they learnt yet?

Veronica (34 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 4:31 pm

I hope you have a wonderful day together.

Dianne Bullen writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 8:58 pm

Lily sounds like a beautiful girl. I hope you had a fantastic day together. She sounds like she has exactly the right nature to be in the middle and her easy going spirit will help her through life. I think it is a good way to be.

Sunny Road Mum (45 comments.) writes:
November 10th, 2009 at 10:33 pm

Oh Tiff, I think we all have (many) moments where we think we haven’t juggled all our balls well. I’m sure Lily knows how much you love her. I hope you had a nice day together. xx

fancy feet (100 comments.) writes:
November 11th, 2009 at 3:25 am

This is beautiful.

Lisalicious (1 comments.) writes:
November 11th, 2009 at 8:22 am

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Mary writes:
November 11th, 2009 at 10:15 am

A big hug to Lily-in-the-middle. I’m sure you enjoyed your day together!

Kat (85 comments.) writes:
November 11th, 2009 at 3:46 pm

Beautiful. I’m so glad you let her have the day.

MissyBoo (34 comments.) writes:
November 11th, 2009 at 4:36 pm

Big hugs to Lily-in-the-middle. I hope you both had a lovely day together xoxox

jeanie (128 comments.) writes:
November 12th, 2009 at 3:39 pm

Oh Tiff - the poor middlers - never stand out enough to get the awards, never so bad that they get the kick up the pants.

I hope Lily and you got to have some of that good time together…

Kelley @ Magnetoboldtoo (152 comments.) writes:
November 16th, 2009 at 6:42 pm

I have my own Lily.

Caught up in the madness, staying back so not to be ‘a bother’

I totally understand, and will go and hug her now. Thanks for the reminder.

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