A few facts.
My washing machine is well and truly broken. I have kicked it once too often and it has finally curled up its toes and welcomed a white goods death.
The mini break was heaven… for everyone except Ives and I (and in parts Noah).
We got home on Sunday
and went to hospital on Monday.
Ivy has pneumonia.
The paediatrician was not involved with her admission.
The nurses on the paed medical ward are angels.
The comment left by ‘Suzie’ hurt.
Alot.
I’m sure that was the desired effect
and I don’t feel like talking much
but I just wanted to let you all know how much I love and appreciate every single one of you for standing up for me, sticking by me and for wanting to build a safe space for me.
That means alot.
I am feeling very fragile (can I say that without sounding selfish?).
No more words for now but
here is one of my favourite photos from our ‘holiday’.
I’ve titled it ‘friends’
because we all need them and I am very lucky to have so many.
Aww I’m sorry to hear poor wee Ivy has pneumonia. I hope she’s better soon – thank goodness for wonderful nurses!
Try to ignore those who are insincere, after all, they’re opinions aren’t worth being sad over, are they?
(((HUGE HUGS))) from the other side hun, and I LOVE that photo! xxx
You have more friends than you believe, kiddo. And we all have one thing in common- our love and respect for you.
I have been reading your blog since I came accross a link on another forum Re: the petition. I check back often to see how your family are doing…and the very sweet Ivy. I think you are marvelous! I enjoy your awsome photos (even a little jealous as cameras and I dont mix well) I love the way you write, your honesty, humour, openess and creative ways of describing and conveying the good times and bad.
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Chin up. dont stress about those people who offer nothing but negativity and hurt. They must be pretty miserable in their own lives to feel it their right to be so critical and judgemental of others. I hope Ivy soon gets better
Sorry to hear Ivy is sick again
Hope she bounces back again soon.
You’re not selfish at all.
Poo on anyone who would make you think otherwise.
I hope Ivy is feeling better soon.
Tiff, you are a paragon of courage and the virtues of motherhood. All of us who love and admire you can’t be wrong. The one ignorant loud-mouth can be, and is just that. Wrong. And Wrong-headed.
Sorry to hear Ivy’s sick again. Darn it all to heck!
Glad some/parts of the family had a lot of fun on the mini vacation. You all deserved a getaway.
I love the photo.
FANTASTIC photo!!!!!!!! That one needs to be made into a card and also put on a BIG canvas for your wall!! (can you fit any more pics?? Being a keen photographer of my fam I know I dont have much wall space left)!!!!! And enter it in any comps that you can. It is BEAUTIFUL.
Sorry to hear Ivy is sick, I hope it is a quick recovery, the poor darling.
Dont’ listen to people that put you down. This is your blog and NO ONE has to read it, they choose to, and they are all entitled to have their own blog. Maybe people get jealous because not only do you have a) a beautiful family, BUT b) you’re a fabulous photographer AND c) You write SO well. Tall poppy syndrome…..
I also want it to be remembered that your Paed ACCEPTED the WINE!!!!!!!!!!!! Would be a different story if he really did believe it was wrong to accept gifts. Kinda rude when you choose what gifts you want….
And I think most normal people are allowed vent and have a whinge and that doesn’t have to mean you want to dump your paed and get a new one. I often complain about my GP (the good one that I save for special occassions..he is miles away) but I will always go to him when it’s important. I will still complain to my husband though, because face it, no Dr is perfect.
It’s normal to feel hurt, just let go of it soon, because it will only bring you down. There is ALWAYS going to be someone that wants to cause turmoil, unfortunately it is human nature.
Hang in there, you’re doing a great job. xoxoox
Beautiful photo!
My prayers are going up for Ivy. And for you.
Dammit, hospital again? On top of Suzie’s comment? Oh sweetie, no wonder you are feeling fragile. (((hugs))) from me down here.
lol – I just thought of a whole rant comment about washing machines being important members of your household too, and kicking them being out of line!!!
lol – it is so good to have friends and supporters.
There will always be people who will say things that aren’t 100% supportive, and as you know, when you are 100% on your game you can teflon coat yourself and think “each to their own” and move on – and 100% of those times, they will slide right off.
And then there are the moments when you have chinks in your armour, and little barbs will slip through and slice – and they will not slide off and will instead create festers.
It matters not the intent or the perceptions of such barbs – what matters is that you cannot shake the damage that they do when you are not 100%.
I am so sorry that you were hurt and that your armour allowed so much hurt through.
I am so glad your friends linked arms and gave you a wall.
I hope the IVIG is doing the same for your baby girl.
Hugs to you, darl.
First of all, I’m incredibly sorry to hear that Ivy has pneumonia. That royally sucks.
Second of all, you are not selfish.
Third, I wanted to say that I’ve been trying to see Suzie’s point of view, but I honestly can’t get my head that far up my ass. What an insensitive way of putting things over and over again.
I’ll be thinking about you guys. I hope Ivy starts feeling better soon.
Sorry to hear that tiff. I hope she feels better.
And about Suzie- Shake it off Honey. She ain’t worth it.
Huge hugs to you… I have told so many of my friends who also have special kids… you are entitled to feel however the he!! you want and at ANY given time that is subject to change without notice or remorse. And you know what… ITS OKAY! I am here to tell you… you are allowed!
I am so sorry Ivy is not feeling well. I hope that she can find some relief soon.
Hang in there… some days the only thing we are expected to do is make it through and that in and of itself is a huge feat!
Hugs!
Amber
Hang in there.
Love and hugs!!
So sorry to hear wee Ivy has pneumonia.
It is awful to have a child sick and so often, wears you down.
I read Suzie’s comment and then your blog about it. I visited many times wanting to say ‘something’. But found myself gobsmacked. I definately do not want to add to any stress you are already going through.
Unlike others, I think it was a defensive comment.
Sheesh, Tiff, why does anyone leave any kind of comments ??? I just don’t know.
I just hope you can move forward, forget about the comments that bite and focus on the good stuff, the people who want to help and support and wee Ivy.Nothing else matters.
Thinking and praying for Ivy and sending massive love and hugs to you all.
Hiya my Gorgeous Friend.. Veronica tells me that you have been getting lots of trollish comments and emails. You can forward all that shite on to me if you like. A problem shared is a problem halved .. We can then poke fun at their trollishness, giggle at their stupidity and loudly question their ancestry.. as well as pick their spelling and grammar to bits..
You dont have to deal with the stupid asshats on your own Tiff. I am proud to call you my friend and as friends your trolls become my trolls.. xxx Kim
I agree with Mum!
Oh Tiff – hugs to you my dear friend – very proud to call you my friend too.
I just caught up with the last post we were away at the Farm – wow … there are no words to describe it.
I am shaking my head in disbelief and I can only imagine the distress she has caused you.
Hope Ivy is better soon and home … chat soon.
So sorry to hear Ivy is unwell again – I’m always thinking of you and hoping things improve.
And you couldn’t possibly sound selfish even if you tried.
Hang in there
xx
Gorgeous pic. Love it, love it, love it.
I’m so sorry Ives is sick again. But I’m so pleased those nurses came through for you and her.
Lots of love. xx
Beautiful shot. Beautiful girls. Beautiful you.
There’s no point in telling you not to feel bad, Tiff, or not to fret. Words hurt and hearts take time to mend and want no part from logic in the mending.
But, I’m going to say it again, just so your heart hears it said: You did nothing wrong. You did a lovely, kind, thoughtful thing. You are a stellar, A+, top-drawer mother to your children. You are a devoted wife. You are a beautiful, vibrant woman with a wonderful wry wit, a rare sense of humor and some SERIOUS writing and photography skills. You are a kindhearted friend.
People who say hurtful things have the power to wound our hearts, but they do not have the power to change the truth. You know who you are, Tiff, and so do I. And if you forget, I’ll won’t hesitate to remind you — just read paragraph three.
Hugs
Ah shit! Don’t you hate whitegoods that pick inapproprate times to die? I once had a dryer drop dead in the middle of a week long rain with a 3 month old baby in the house.
Sorry to hear Ivy has pneumonia again, hopefully she’ll be feeling better by the time you read this.
That photo is gorgeous.
So sorry that Ivy is in hospital again! (((HUGS))) Hope she’s out soon.
Glad that you had a bit of a break though, I’m sure the change of scenery did the world of good for the whole family, even if Ivy got sick again.
As for the Suzie thing, I just LOVE Veronica’s mom’s comment!
Hugs to you and Ivy.
Everyone has pretty much said what I wanted to, but I’ve got some sticky tape here for you from Miss V and a smiley sticker from Miss J. They wonderful for mending heart hurts.
Hang in there
I am sorry to hear that Ivy is ill again – poor little sweetpea.
I think Suzie should f@#k off.
I am really looking to knock someone’s block off at the moment…
xxx
Hey sorry I haven’t been around for a while – got distracted.
OMG so sorry to hear that Ivy has pneumonia. Hope she is better soon.
And you too. Don’t ever be afraid to take time out for you or admit when you are feeling worn down. It is you that keeps the family going and if you aren’t going then nor are they. Well maybe they will but not as smoothly. So go look after yourself. Please????
Take care and ignore the ignorant Sh*^& who leave comments like Suzie. Take care
Sorry to hear Ivy is unwell again, and the washing machine died and that you’re feeling so fragile.
I think everyone has already said what I would say… Though I will say what a beautiful photo (and I’m envious of your photography)
Thinking of you (((Hugs)))
Morning Tiff,
Thinking of wee Ivy this morning and hoping she is recovering.
Hugs
Oh no I am so sorry sweet Ivy is so sick…I was hoping I wasn’t going to be reading an entry like that for a while…or never again actually. I do hope she recovers quickly. She is in my thoughts, as are you.
Oh dear about the washing machine…and excuse for a nice supadupa new one (if the funds are handy?!)…bit hard to keep the household looking respectable with nothing to wash the clothes in. It’s a real pain when our white-goods give up on us. Hope it’s replaced soon (or even better that the washing-fairy pops in and takes care of all your washing!)
Please try and ignore the negative and hurtful things – you have enough on your plate to worry about.
Great photo…you are a marvelous photographer for sure
HUGS
What a beautiful photo! You are quite a gifted photographer.
Glad the holiday was what so many in your family needed.
Prayers for you and Ivy.
Im so sorry little Ivy is sick again. Keep remembering, its taken her a long while to get this sick, and its going to take some time for her to get better. Even with IVIG.
Think of it like pregnancy:)…….it takes 40 wks to gain those pounds, we wont get into skinny jeans right away. Each time she gets her infusion, her body will be a little bit better. But even just a little bit better, is still better, right? and eventually those little bits will add up to something bigger.
I think we can conclude that maybe your peds rules about gift receiving can only include gifts that include alchohol, and dont include caffiene.
lol
I read the Rolo cookies recipe and felt my jeans get tighter just reading it.
I’m so sorry to hear about Ivy’s latest, and even more sorry you’ve been hurt by that anonymous jerk. The Internet can be so healing and so hurtful, all at once. I understand the need to retreat and lick your wounds, I’ve been there. We’ll be here when you find your words again.
I hope that things are a little better for you today
Just wanted to let you know that I think that my washing machine has gone out in sympathy with yours. I am not 100% sure as I didn’t have long enough before I left for work to let it run through a cycle and see what happens but it threw a major hissy fit last night. Maybe they (our washing machines) have been secretly having words together.
Oh Tiff Im so sorry to hear that Ivy is unwell again. The poor little mite, shes been through more than her fair share.
Im always thinking of you guys and checking in. Your photos are magnificent.
Bugger @ the washing machine! I hate whitegoods, they always let you down.
The thing about Susie – dont pay her any attention.
Unfortunately the anonymity of the world wide web, gives some gutless people with big balls and empty heads, the power to speak without understanding and compassion and they forget that what rubbish they spout can hurt someone on the other end. How pointless and pathetic of her.
This is YOUR BLOG. You allow people to comment on what you post about YOUR LIFE AND YOUR OPINIONS. Thats it. You dont force anyone to read it and hell, anyone who does read it, would know that if they had anything negative to say – they should keep it to themselves. You just dont need it.
Susie sounds like a miserable person, with no real social skills (hence not understanding your problem) and misery loves company Tiff – so dont let her drag you down or upset you. She didnt even bother to read what you wrote Tiff. Your Dr accepted the gift of a bottle of wine, but not the coffee card. There is clearly no difference as to why and your confusion is understandable. Susie doesnt even realise that he accepted one gift already so her whole theory is shot to shit.
Stuff her.
Remember what I did to my troll? Channel some Magnetoboldtoo babe. It feels freaking awesome.
Give that baby girl a big kiss from me please.
So sorry to hear Ivy is ill, and that you, her and in some parts Noah didn’t enjoy the mini break as much as you would have wanted to and more importanly, so deserved to enjoy it.
A bit of humor to cheer you up. Back in the day of snail mail, and way before the days of cheap long distance phone calls, my aunt sent my mother a letter informing us that my cousin had phenomenon – she of course meant to write pnemonia. It still cracks us up. But then, the mentally retarded are easily amused, as my grandmother used to say.
Ah, but that photo – that photo is priceless! Really! You have GOT to enlarge that and frame it.