Perspective.
I want to move. (I want alot of things).
Into town, closer to the hospital, closer to the services that we now need for Ivy.
Closer to my mum.
I can’t see how to do it though.
If we move and Ivy has the IVIG then going back to work for a couple of days a week is a possibility for me.
It could be good.
If Ivy can go to pre school with Noah then I could go to work.
It wouldn’t be for any extra income.
It would be for me.
In town we would be close to the Performing Arts School, if Imogen and Madeline got in.
We would have access to after school care, services and people who could support David and I through this business of having a sick child.
But
the market is terrible and our house is nowhere near being able to be sold.
It would need work.
Work that would be easily undone by seven children running around.
I would miss people.
I’ve done this whole moving thing so many times before and I would miss people (Tracey).
If we move we will have to start again.
New schools, new dance teachers, new soccer teams, new neighbourhood.
What about our animals?
I love my house and the view we have, anything we might buy in town would be smaller, much smaller.
We would have to move and rent, something tiny and unlikely to accept pets.
Clean up the house and make it marketable and then look to buy again after it sold and after I had been working again for six months.
How do we do that?
A mortgage and rent on one income?
Can it be done and if so, would it be worth it?
My head hurts trying to put everything into perspective.
Hard questions. Tough choices. Difficult decisions. We thought we wanted to move, too. We tried. We failed. And now, we see that we are right where we need to be. Even if it isn’t the perfect situation. I praying the answers come at the right time for you–and that they are as clear as a light turning on.
If it’s meant to be a solution will find you.
Don’t turn yourself inside out trying to make things work, take a deep breath and concentrate on each day as it comes.
It’ll happen when the time is right
That’s so tough, Tiff. I have no answers. I wish I did. I’ll be thinking of you, though.
I wish I could help you decide, but unfortunately I can’t. Good luck.
“What’s meant to be will always find a way” (quote from one of my favourite songs)
Pity the hospital can’t come to you.
Hang in there, Tiff. If it’s meant to be it WILL happen. Just hang in there.
((Hugs)) Tiff. What big dilemmas you have…
I know how hard it is to try and wrap your thoughts fully around all the options ahead of you.
Even harder is when you find more options and possibilities spilling out, falling outside the reach of your mind.
Perspective hurts my head.
Good luck Tiff.
We have a similar situation going on here — I feel for you Tiff, boy do I ever!
Oh Tiff
We have had to make all the same decisions and had all the same challenges, bar one important one that you have, Ivy’s illness.
I’m sorry, I don’t agree with the comments regarding ‘If it is meant to be, it will happen’. I believe you have to make things happen, that waiting for someone to wave a magic wand.
If you truly believe that this is what is the right thing for you and your family, then move heaven and earth to do it.
It’s an important decision, one not to be taken lightly, but if you do nothing, you may well regret it.
Have you thought about renting out the property you already have to offset the existing mortgage, while purchasing closer to town? In the current climate, hanging on to your current property and buying something else is a good investment idea, if you can manage it. Both properties should escalate within a few years and you will be on easy street
If you leave me, can I come too?
There are lots of good reasons to consider a move. Your house does not need a lot of serious work, just a few cosmetic ‘tweaks’. You could certainly manage it if you thought that was for the best.
You can’t move far enough away that I won’t continue to torment you