Comments on: On being larger than life… http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/ Where chaos reigns supreme. Love, life and everything in between. Thu, 28 Aug 2008 20:45:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Dawn http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2681 Dawn Mon, 05 May 2008 03:39:51 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2681 I'm with the stink raisers.... I’m with the stink raisers….

]]> By: 'cuz I'm the mommy, that's why http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2657 'cuz I'm the mommy, that's why Sun, 04 May 2008 09:48:40 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2657 Say something! I went through a similar problem with my step-daughter's maternal grandmother when Wolver-tween was about 8. Crazy Granny called my house, and told my beautiful girl she was fat. My blood boiled as I watched my girl's eyes tear up. I told the psycho that if she called my house again I would put out a warrant for her arrest. (She had no need to call my house anyway as she's Hubby's ex-wife's mom - that's just creepy anyway.) She wisely listened, and my girl has since realized that her granny is mean and irrational. Just hold your ground and explain how hard you've worked to instill a positive self-image and healthy habits in your daughter. If that doesn't get her attention, a change of teachers may be in order (I'm sure the school board would be interested if the teacher & principal don't toe the line!) Say something! I went through a similar problem with my step-daughter’s maternal grandmother when Wolver-tween was about 8. Crazy Granny called my house, and told my beautiful girl she was fat. My blood boiled as I watched my girl’s eyes tear up. I told the psycho that if she called my house again I would put out a warrant for her arrest. (She had no need to call my house anyway as she’s Hubby’s ex-wife’s mom - that’s just creepy anyway.) She wisely listened, and my girl has since realized that her granny is mean and irrational. Just hold your ground and explain how hard you’ve worked to instill a positive self-image and healthy habits in your daughter. If that doesn’t get her attention, a change of teachers may be in order (I’m sure the school board would be interested if the teacher & principal don’t toe the line!)

]]> By: Widdle Shamrock http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2591 Widdle Shamrock Fri, 02 May 2008 01:48:17 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2591 SAY SOMETHING !!!!!! Please. SAY SOMETHING !!!!!!

Please.

]]> By: bethn http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2584 bethn Thu, 01 May 2008 23:04:53 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2584 YOu should definitly talk to the teacher and the principal quietly. In today's society of eating disorders and health problems in kids how can a teacher say something like that. It's so hard to be a kid these days. YOu should definitly talk to the teacher and the principal quietly. In today’s society of eating disorders and health problems in kids how can a teacher say something like that. It’s so hard to be a kid these days.

]]> By: Shel http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2583 Shel Thu, 01 May 2008 20:59:52 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2583 Most definately you should say something! I fail to see how bringing it up with a TWELVE year old is going to do anything but mess with her poor head. *If* there were an issue, you'd think the appropriate thing to do would be to bring it up with the parents first. Not the my-body-is-already-changing-and-I-am-feeling-increibly-insecure-anyway 12 year old. I feel awfully for your little girl. I would probably have a quiet chat with the teacher; also too mentioning what damage her 'contributions' can do to a 12 year olds self esteem. Could she have picked a worse time in a girls life to tell her she's fat?? Most definately you should say something! I fail to see how bringing it up with a TWELVE year old is going to do anything but mess with her poor head. *If* there were an issue, you’d think the appropriate thing to do would be to bring it up with the parents first. Not the my-body-is-already-changing-and-I-am-feeling-increibly-insecure-anyway 12 year old.

I feel awfully for your little girl.

I would probably have a quiet chat with the teacher; also too mentioning what damage her ‘contributions’ can do to a 12 year olds self esteem. Could she have picked a worse time in a girls life to tell her she’s fat??

]]> By: Joh http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2579 Joh Thu, 01 May 2008 15:01:42 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2579 I haven't grown a centimetre since I was in grade six. I felt big at school and I felt very sensitive about it. I was taller than everyone for at least six months. I have felt overweight most of my life- yet sadly when I look at the photo's of myself as a young woman - I was really only tall, not fat as I felt, but the dieting over the years certainly changed that! I am sorry this has happened to your gorgeous girl and highly applaud your stance. You are doing all the right things. I have focussed on health with my kids after my own experiences and discuss body image in all my classes (to hell with the curriculum!) Being that it is only April, I would have a quiet chat with the teacher to work towards improving your daughters experience at school. In December I would tell her she sucks! - if you still feel that way:-) It is definately HER problem. I haven’t grown a centimetre since I was in grade six. I felt big at school and I felt very sensitive about it. I was taller than everyone for at least six months. I have felt overweight most of my life- yet sadly when I look at the photo’s of myself as a young woman - I was really only tall, not fat as I felt, but the dieting over the years certainly changed that!

I am sorry this has happened to your gorgeous girl and highly applaud your stance. You are doing all the right things. I have focussed on health with my kids after my own experiences and discuss body image in all my classes (to hell with the curriculum!)

Being that it is only April, I would have a quiet chat with the teacher to work towards improving your daughters experience at school. In December I would tell her she sucks! - if you still feel that way:-) It is definately HER problem.

]]> By: Trish http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2578 Trish Thu, 01 May 2008 14:14:32 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2578 hugs to you Tiff and kick that teachers butt...how dare she .It saddens me too that your beautiful daughter's confidence was rocked .I agree with what everyone has said. hugs to you Tiff and kick that teachers butt…how dare she .It saddens me too that your beautiful daughter’s confidence was rocked .I agree with what everyone has said.

]]> By: Suze http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2577 Suze Thu, 01 May 2008 14:09:23 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2577 I agree about having a quiet word at the school, to the teacher. It was an unbelievably idiotic thing for her to say, and she needs to know it. Maybe that won't erase what she said to your gorgeous girl, but it may stop her from being so utterly moronic and thoughtless in the future. And kudos to you for teaching your kids to appreciate everyone, no matter their shape. I agree about having a quiet word at the school, to the teacher. It was an unbelievably idiotic thing for her to say, and she needs to know it. Maybe that won’t erase what she said to your gorgeous girl, but it may stop her from being so utterly moronic and thoughtless in the future.
And kudos to you for teaching your kids to appreciate everyone, no matter their shape.

]]> By: frogpondsrock http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2576 frogpondsrock Thu, 01 May 2008 12:24:36 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2576 I would quietly make my displeasure known to the teacher and to the principal.. But I also wouldn't make too much of a big deal of it at the school.. that said. I am furious with that stupid thoughtless idiotic excuse for a fucktard who certainly isn't a teacher,... just happens to have a bachelor of education... that said..I have seen photos of your gorgeous girls and 'big' is never a word I would use to describe any of them. I would use expressions like gorgeous and natural and totally healthy looking girls.. (((hugs))) kim I would quietly make my displeasure known to the teacher and to the principal.. But I also wouldn’t make too much of a big deal of it at the school..

that said. I am furious with that stupid thoughtless idiotic excuse for a fucktard who certainly isn’t a teacher,… just happens to have a bachelor of education…

that said..I have seen photos of your gorgeous girls and ‘big’ is never a word I would use to describe any of them.

I would use expressions like gorgeous and natural and totally healthy looking girls..

(((hugs))) kim

]]> By: river http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2573 river Thu, 01 May 2008 08:33:15 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/on-being-larger-than-life/#comment-2573 I think a quiet meeting with the teacher and the principal would be appropriate, having an easy chat about how body image remarks are inappropriate and can lead to poor self image and related eating and health disorders. If the teacher then continues to offend, even accidentally, kick up a stink. There's nothing wrong with any particular body shape anyway. I've always wanted to be taller and thinner, but I'm genetically disposed to be short and chunky. A glance at family tree photos shows my ancestors all looking similar and there's nothing i can do about it. The whole world is in the same boat. Vive la difference! I think a quiet meeting with the teacher and the principal would be appropriate, having an easy chat about how body image remarks are inappropriate and can lead to poor self image and related eating and health disorders. If the teacher then continues to offend, even accidentally, kick up a stink. There’s nothing wrong with any particular body shape anyway. I’ve always wanted to be taller and thinner, but I’m genetically disposed to be short and chunky. A glance at family tree photos shows my ancestors all looking similar and there’s nothing i can do about it. The whole world is in the same boat. Vive la difference!

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