Honesty is the best policy.
*please read this with the tongue in cheek, it so deserves*
Okay. I suck. I know it.
I hear you.
My posts are big fat downers that everyone is sick of hearing (thank you new troll for pointing that out).
Going off the crazy pills was obviously a bad idea.
I have no life.
The pead told me, in no uncertain terms, that I am neurotic. He is p*ssed off with me because I refused to let the ENT doctor operate on Ivy when she is immune suppressed. That’s okay, paed, I’ll take that on board.
Noted.
Thanks.
My ‘friend’ told me I was an unmotivated fat slob and that I needed to do something about that. Yes, way to help with my already overinflated ego. Thank you. I am so beautiful, I needed to be knocked down a peg or two.
Clearly I am a terrible, depressed, ugly, lowlife.
So, as of Monday I am going to change.
You all want happy floaty posts?
Done. (Scroll down after this post there is a cute picture of the boy and an equally cute story).
Expect less though because my brain just doesn’t work that way for, oh, 70% of the time.
The paed wants me to shut my yap about my worry and stress for Ivy?
Done, although I still will not agree to the operation.
Sorry ’bout that.
Oh and I won’t go back on the crazy pills.
I will bite the bullet and take Ivy and Noah to playgroup, no matter the germs.
I will put them in the creche and go to the gym and I will watch what I put in my mouth. God forbid I be a slob (and a fat one at that).
Oh and my neuroses?
Perhaps he will appreciate them a bit more the next time I have to present to A&E. Until then, I will keep them to myself.
Truly.
Firmly put in my place.
Honesty really is the best policy.
Over and out.
hugs … and Lindt balls .
OMG who said that to you - no friend for sure ! I want to peg something at them… heavy.
I am so sorry you are going through a very rough patch and the support people are not doing their job. I agree I wouldn’t let them operate on Ivy either.
I will come and see you soon , bringing Lindt balls and we’ll go for a walk.
Please ignore the trolls. This is your blog.
Not sure what I could say here that would actually help. As a mum I think it is incredibly important to go with your gut instincts, stick to your guns on the operation, mums do actually know stuff!!
Don’t let the trolls win by responding to them. It’s what they want! Don’t give them any power by even mentioning them, however hard it is.
I wish I could help
It’s YOUR life and YOUR children, so anyone being negative can just go take a hike! Post what you want. Post how you really feel. Stuff them all.
Be you. You’re a good person to be.
OMG Tiff. What horrible petty small minded people they are to say such things to you.
I know you said it’s tongue in cheek but I am sorry that you have these kinds of idiots in your life who cannot support you in doing the best you can by your kids.
Don’t you take their bullshit on board.
hugs hon.
Lots and lots of hugs, honey.
No MEDICAL PERSON worth his or her salt should EVER make a mother feel awful about worrying about her child - especially when he has called wrong - like seriously f*ing wrong - several times just in the few months I have been reading you.
No troll is worth the fingers to keyboard response - wave your fingers in the air at them, delete them and move on forward - they get their power from the pain they inflict.
Your friend sounds like my dad. Unfortunately they do have science or some baloney to back up their theory that getting out, exercising, brushing your hair - all that carp - will make you feel better, but when you don’t feel like getting out I think it is scientifically proven (by a survey of you and me) that it feels like that statement is a kick in the guts - up there with “you will feel better if you try and smile” and “stop thinking about it”. Automatic response of “curl up and die” is possibly as much appreciated as the unwanted advice in the first place.
This is YOUR SPACE and we (most of us) do support you and want you to understand that our role is that - support you, cheer when the goals are kicked and comiserates when the stakes are down - so if you really want to do a pithy feel good blog, fine, but if you need to vent and rant and scream and tear down the walls of injustice with a post - do so knowing that we are at your shoulder with you.
I’m just useless here.
You sound so down, please try to ignore the bad things people say, try to live in the good things (just like Noah below!).
Please take care.
Ignore those trolls. This is your blog, your outlet for venting or sharing. Keeping all those feelings inside because “someone” doesn’t want to read them is not good for you. Bottling things up only works until the bottle explodes, then everyone in range is subject to “radioactive” (for want of a better word) fallout. Much like the coke bottle exploding at my checkout which then sprayed coke over customers AND three neighbouring checkouts. You don’t need that and neither does your family, so keep blogging here where your friends as well as your family can support you. F*****g troll can p*** off and read something else if he’s not happy here.
Take this tongue in cheek because you are? Or are you trying to hide behind a bit of flippancy. It’s your blog hon. You say what you want. It’s your child. You know what’s best. I really don’t understand why people think it’s “helpful” to kick someone when they’re going through as much trauma as you are at the moment. All I can do is send you {{{{HUGS}}}} and a reminder to be kind to yourself.
Your paed sounds like he needs his balls cut off… Can I do it? Or maybe you’d like that honor?
As for whatever pathetic excuse of a ‘friend’ said that - fuck em… and the troll? IGNORE THEM! This is a place for YOU to express YOUR feelings, it’s YOUR blog, you can do what you want in it!!
(((huge hugs))) I just wish I could be there to give you some in person xxxx
I’m just going to hug you okay?
Then you can write all the happy floaty posts you like. (do what I did, add a second blog to this domain, and keep it to rant on)
And I will comment here there and everywhere.
Screw the people who tell you what should or shouldn’t be on your blog, its your blog and you can write whatever you need to write. Wasn’t that the point in the first place? You didn’t do this to entertain others, it is for you and your sanity, its is YOUR space. Those of us who care about you would never say stupid crap about you or your posts. We love you, through your highs and lows, and to hell with everyone else.
Hugs from around the other end of the world. I only wish I was closer, I’d bring over a tub of ice cream and we could swap miserable stories, that is what friends (and family) are for. Plus you can revel in the fact that I am fatter and weigh much more than you
Hang in there…
~HUGS~
It’s your blog, you post what you want.
It’s your life, don’t run faster than you are able.
Hey! WTF. I want my Tiff back. Tell the troll to fuck off. Period. End of story. Do you need more Tootsie Rolls? Because if you do, I’m just the person you need to talk to. Anytime. About anything. A ny thing.
The trolls can go and suck a rotten egg.
This is YOUR blog, you can write whatever the hell you want. If you’re upset, then write about it. Blogs aren’t meant to be constant joy joy…we all suck sometimes.
The doctor should get his butt in check.
YOUR the mom. Your instinct beats a doctor’s every time. You KNOW your child, better than anyone. If he argues with you remind him what happened when you went against your instinct on the medication….and tell him to suck it.
And as for you?
Well, you’re beautiful. You are doing everything you can to survive…and to make sure your babies survive into the age where they can take care of you for a change. Don’t ever doubt your beauty.
I know this is a public blog - but can you block certain people? If you can, perhaps you should start blocking the trolls as they crawl out of the woodwork!
In the meantime, please know that the REST of us LOVE your blog just the way it is and we will love you and support you no matter what you post!
Hugs and prayers sent your way…
Bugger the damned paed, he’s on the offensive coz he’s screwed up too many times while you’ve been proven correct each time.
Bugger the damned troll, it’s your blog and your life you’re choosing to share with us.
Follow that inner voice and listen to yourself more, hell all of your readers can’t have bad taste or judgment to be continually coming back to read what you have to say!
Your trolls can come over to my blog. Been a bit quiet there lately, and I’ve had a stressful week, so I’m just dying for an excuse to go postal on someone.
Fuck’em. I fucking love you to death. And I like to swear in your comments. So, yeah, fuck’em all.
I will understand when you delete this, btw.
Tiff - You rock - you make gutsy moves like questioning the medical profession - which I believe is highly intelligent - particularly in view of how wrong they’ve frequently been. I find you inspiring, courageous and great.
Keep being you. BTW: Friends are replacable if they aren’t being friendly.
Yep what everybody else said.. (((((HUGS))))))
Thanks for stopping by my blog.
I need to go through your blog some more and find out every thing that is going on but it sounds like people are being “too” honest.
What a paed? Your pediatrician? I’m appalled and embarrassed if that what you meant and they spoke to you like that. No medical professional should speak to you like that and then burden you with making a “wrong” decision when you clearly meant it to be the best decision for your child.
ok now I have to go and read some of your archives.
Blessings
Blog it ALL out, Sweetie - you are among friends, here - it’ll give you the strength and confidence to rid yourself of the “toxic stuff” that is surrounding you at the moment.
Judging by the previous comments, you ARE worth it…YES?
Oh, hon. I’m sorry to read the pain in this post. My first impulse was to react angrily towards all those who made you feel this way - but that impulse was also loaded with quite a few really nasty sailor-type swear words, so I suppressed it.
Hope your days are brighter soon.
Some people confuse being classless and rude with being honest. Quite a shame, really. A little compassion goes a long way.
*hugs*
Don’t you dare make your blog all light and fluffy! This is your release, your place to vent! Stuff what the trolls are saying!!
As far as the paed is concerned, he should have as much concern about putting her through more risk!!
(((HUGS)))
Who’s the lowlife? No, it’s not you. Stick to your guns when it comes to your daughter and ignore the other comments of the ilk you mention above. Virtual hugs….
Love you. xx
THHHBBBBBBBBBBTTTT!!!! To the trolls (Paed included)
Begone!
And you — You’re just fine the way you are, ‘Miss Tongue In Cheek’. I happen to think you’re fabulous. So there!