Comments on: Crazy… http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/ Fri, 21 Nov 2008 12:16:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Gemisht http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3102 Gemisht Fri, 23 May 2008 12:43:42 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3102 I'm not sure if you want to put an end to the nightmares or not. As horrible as they are, I get the feeling that there is something more to them for you given the premonitions that you had with William. And that is understandable. But if you want to get rid of the nightmares, have you considered hypnotherapy??? I know it sounds a bit weird and out there but it is all about your subconscious - the same place that our dreams stem from. I don't know if it can help, it was just a thought that I had today while thinking of you. If you want to know more from someone who has had hypnotherapy and lived to tell the tale, without doing embarrassing things on stage, then please email me :) I’m not sure if you want to put an end to the nightmares or not. As horrible as they are, I get the feeling that there is something more to them for you given the premonitions that you had with William. And that is understandable.

But if you want to get rid of the nightmares, have you considered hypnotherapy??? I know it sounds a bit weird and out there but it is all about your subconscious - the same place that our dreams stem from. I don’t know if it can help, it was just a thought that I had today while thinking of you.

If you want to know more from someone who has had hypnotherapy and lived to tell the tale, without doing embarrassing things on stage, then please email me :)

]]> By: Mum http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3094 Mum Fri, 23 May 2008 02:01:28 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3094 I know you have bad feelings about Ivy, but with our history (yours and mine), it is only natural (not craziness) that sub-concious fears and anxieties manifest themselves in our dreams (and nightmares.) Sleep deprivation doesn't help either. But know this, Ivy is meant to BE! She will weather all storms because she is tough and courageous (just like her mum) and the love, care and hope that surrounds her WILL sustain her. I know you have bad feelings about Ivy, but with our history (yours and mine), it is only natural (not craziness) that sub-concious fears and anxieties manifest themselves in our dreams (and nightmares.) Sleep deprivation doesn’t help either. But know this, Ivy is meant to BE! She will weather all storms because she is tough and courageous (just like her mum) and the love, care and hope that surrounds her WILL sustain her.

]]> By: Childlife http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3085 Childlife Thu, 22 May 2008 16:00:59 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3085 Tiff, you're not crazy. Not an ounce. You are a dedicated, vigilant Mom, and the best one Ivy could have. Dedication and vigilance are what she needs -- and it's going to near suck the life out of you for a while, but I KNOW you can do it. You're the right girl for this job. For the record, I STILL have nightmares. I STILL get up and check to make sure my kids are breathing and listen to heart beats. I STILL touch foreheads in the middle of the night, testing for warmth of life. I STILL have a baby monitor in my 5-year-old's room so I can sleep to the sound of her breathing. If you're crazy, then I'm certifiable. And a thought... would your Paed OK the use of a heart rate monitor? They are less expensive and less touchy than an oximeter apnea monitor, but they are worth their weight in gold for peace of mind. They attach around the ribcage with a velcro chest strap and will alarm for either inadequate respiration rate or for high or low heart rate. I insisted on one until we had it written in a medical chart that Jacqui was no longer considered at risk for swelling around her trachea. I think given what happened with Ivy on the dapsone you could make a very strong case for a heart rate monitor. Tiff, you’re not crazy. Not an ounce. You are a dedicated, vigilant Mom, and the best one Ivy could have. Dedication and vigilance are what she needs — and it’s going to near suck the life out of you for a while, but I KNOW you can do it. You’re the right girl for this job.

For the record, I STILL have nightmares. I STILL get up and check to make sure my kids are breathing and listen to heart beats. I STILL touch foreheads in the middle of the night, testing for warmth of life. I STILL have a baby monitor in my 5-year-old’s room so I can sleep to the sound of her breathing.

If you’re crazy, then I’m certifiable.

And a thought… would your Paed OK the use of a heart rate monitor? They are less expensive and less touchy than an oximeter apnea monitor, but they are worth their weight in gold for peace of mind. They attach around the ribcage with a velcro chest strap and will alarm for either inadequate respiration rate or for high or low heart rate. I insisted on one until we had it written in a medical chart that Jacqui was no longer considered at risk for swelling around her trachea. I think given what happened with Ivy on the dapsone you could make a very strong case for a heart rate monitor.

]]> By: river http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3079 river Thu, 22 May 2008 09:14:29 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3079 Michele's comment makes perfect sense to me, especially the part about your subconcious releasing it's fears through dreams. At least you know the cause of your dreams, so you can work through the content and see that they are just your fears and not you going crazy. Michele’s comment makes perfect sense to me, especially the part about your subconcious releasing it’s fears through dreams. At least you know the cause of your dreams, so you can work through the content and see that they are just your fears and not you going crazy.

]]> By: Sadie http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3075 Sadie Thu, 22 May 2008 02:55:06 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3075 After everything you've been through...nightmares are to be expected. I hope you get a good thorough night sleep sometime soon...nightmare-free, peaceful dreams. P.S. I have nightmares too. After everything you’ve been through…nightmares are to be expected. I hope you get a good thorough night sleep sometime soon…nightmare-free, peaceful dreams.

P.S. I have nightmares too.

]]> By: frogpondsrock http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3069 frogpondsrock Wed, 21 May 2008 20:51:28 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3069 Oh Sweety you are not crazy. You are suffering from an incurable condition called Motherhood... Both my kidlets slept with me when they were little. I think that Veronica only stopped coming into my bed in the middle of the night when Dave was born. Put the stethoscope under your pillow.. I would.. xxxxx Kim xxxxx Oh Sweety you are not crazy. You are suffering from an incurable condition called Motherhood…

Both my kidlets slept with me when they were little. I think that Veronica only stopped coming into my bed in the middle of the night when Dave was born.

Put the stethoscope under your pillow.. I would..

xxxxx Kim xxxxx

]]> By: bethn http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3067 bethn Wed, 21 May 2008 20:32:33 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3067 I wish happy thoughts and prayers could make it all go away. You are completely normal and not at all crazy. I used to have nighttime panic attacks and if my husband even touched me during them I'd scream in terror. In sleep your defenses are down and it's the only time your brain can process all of the stress you're going through. Hang in there it'll get better. I wish happy thoughts and prayers could make it all go away. You are completely normal and not at all crazy. I used to have nighttime panic attacks and if my husband even touched me during them I’d scream in terror. In sleep your defenses are down and it’s the only time your brain can process all of the stress you’re going through.

Hang in there it’ll get better.

]]> By: Betsy http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3066 Betsy Wed, 21 May 2008 17:14:22 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3066 Motherhood comes with worries and fears. You are not crazy, you are a mother, who has suffered an unspeakable loss, whose girl is sick. It comes with the territory and if I could wave a wand and make it all go away, I would. But you already know that. I think now is the time to find someone to talk with. I mean how much stress can one Sweet Momma take? Hang in there Sweet Momma and take deep breaths. LOVE and HUGS Motherhood comes with worries and fears. You are not crazy, you are a mother, who has suffered an unspeakable loss, whose girl is sick. It comes with the territory and if I could wave a wand and make it all go away, I would. But you already know that.

I think now is the time to find someone to talk with. I mean how much stress can one Sweet Momma take?

Hang in there Sweet Momma and take deep breaths.

LOVE and HUGS

]]> By: Xbox4NappyRash http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3065 Xbox4NappyRash Wed, 21 May 2008 16:29:00 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3065 You're not crazy, not by a long chalk. You’re not crazy, not by a long chalk.

]]> By: cellobella http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3064 cellobella Wed, 21 May 2008 14:58:30 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/05/crazy/#comment-3064 I think we - and I mean we - beat ourselves up too much as mothers. You just have to do what you have to do... and if that means letting your little one sleep with you, or having a stethoscope by your bed, or whatever - you do it. No one else is in your shoes - it just has to be what works for you. Now this might not work for you long term but hey you're surviving and your little girl is loved and knows that she is - and that's all you can do. Right? Love CB x I think we - and I mean we - beat ourselves up too much as mothers.

You just have to do what you have to do… and if that means letting your little one sleep with you, or having a stethoscope by your bed, or whatever - you do it.

No one else is in your shoes - it just has to be what works for you.

Now this might not work for you long term but hey you’re surviving and your little girl is loved and knows that she is - and that’s all you can do. Right?

Love
CB x

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