Yes, I’m definitely in this for the adoration and the fame and the money and the girls and all of that stuff that just naturally comes your way with having achieved the heights of blogging stardom. Oh, and by the way … The people of Brooklyn, NY have this bridge they’re not using anymore and they want to sell it and they’ve selected me as the broker …. I’m accepting offers.

I have never been popular with clicks either, nor do I ever want to be! I know it does hurt ones heart when no one seems to want to be our friend…. it is hard to overcome. But, blogging is for getting one’s feeling out there, to share and maybe get some feedback… but not for making friends, or getting lots of comments…. if that’s what you are blogging for you might be disappointed. If you DO end up making some friends then you are very lucky! I have made some friends, which is awesome actually… quite a novel feeling to me, having GIRLFRIENDS! I hope you get something out of it chick.

Ok, just to clarify. Blogging for me is therapy and I’m not in it to be popular. Up until recently. I had no idea I was blogging for anyone but myself, my Mum and trish (Hi Trish)

just so you know, it’s all written a bit tongue in cheek

I can HONESTLY say I do it for myself, it keeps me a bit sane. I enjoy writing and it’s a therapy.

But I DO love when I get a visit or a compliment. What can I say, I’m a whore

Hey, you have a lot more hits than I do

I can definitely relate, Tiff. As much as we tell ourselves that we’re only in it for ourselves, its very hard not to get caught up in the popularity contest of rankings, subscribers and commenters. That actually put me off starting a blog for a while because the whole self-promotion “Come be my friend! Read my fantastic blog!” doesn’t sit well with me. I think I am (slowly) getting to a stage where it bothers me less. Like you, I would definitely choose a small group of close friends (in the blog sense - a small group of regular readers and kind commenters) over a huge group of acquaintances (lots of lurking traffic but no real interaction) any day, but no-one likes to feel left out.

At the end of the day, my blog is for me and by me. If others like it, that’s lovely.

I think though if you reach a higher eschelon of popularity, that’s when the narks, the jealous, the mean and the just plain rude people show up to poop on your parade. I don’t think I want that - but, hey, I guess that’s what the ‘delete’ button it for!

Well, I don’t suppose I would mind being super popular in blog land but it’s not something I’m striving toward. If it happens that’s fine, but I’m not bothering with rankings and stuff.

I was also on the not well liked end when I was in public school.

Being a noncomformist I was never the cool chick, but I hung with both groups and still do today.

But the bottom line is, Tiff, YOU are in MY group and I couldn’t be more proud to call you MY friend!!!!

This is funny…I was just thinking about this the other day. I was always the odd one in school, I could fit in with most groups, but didn’t really belong to any of them.

As for blogging, I have a few friends who comment on everything and there are fourteen blogs I have in a separate list in my google reader that I always read (I added your blog to that list last month. I adore your photos of your kids.).

But I realized that the women who have huge bloggy followings are either really good or really good at networking. And I simply do not have it in me to visit dozens of blogs and leave comments and promote my own blog. I have funny and kind and true friend type comments from a few people every day, and that’s enough for me.

Oh, yeah, tootsie rolls are chewy chocolaty candies. Kinda like a less-sticky caramel.

Well I think you’re cool………… does that count?

I know what you mean about the clicks though. I was the girl who was accepted by most clicks, but never quite felt like she fitted into the click so wandered between them…….. something I still do today.

I feel the same way out in the interwebs, and even on my own forum. I think because I am shy and quiet (unless with really good friends) I have trouble putting myself out there and networking. I think maybe sometimes I might come across as maybe rude or unfriendly..but I really don’t mean to be.

I don’t want to be popular, but I would like to be able to network a little better and get on friendly terms with more people..iykwim.

I’ve noticed it too. When I just got into blogging, I felt pressured to “pick one niche” and fit in - but I like writing about my cat, about uni, about food, about me - I don’t really fit in anywhere. And after a while, I decided I was okay with that. After all, it’s not what other people think, it’s what YOU think. And there are other people who feel exactly the same way with their blogs and not fitting into a niche.

I love your blog btw.

I’m your groupie LOL

Ok, let me honest with myself here… I’d LOVE to be one of the uber popular bloggers. Heck I’d love to get half as many comments on my posts as you do! LOL But I am, truly I am, more than happy with where I sit in the blogging world and I think that blogging in general has helped me get more comfortable with who I am in the ‘real world’ too. I am not very good at being social (big surprise my girls are struggling at kinder hey!) I don’t have many friends, and although sometimes I crave to be more social, go out more, have more friends, I am slowly coming to accept that is just not who I am, and that is ok….. though I’d still like some new friends, mine keep moving to Queensland on me!

Wanna give me names of these cliques babe? I have some stilettos that I am not using *sob* that I can implant in temples. Just say the word.

I am actually a little surprised to read this. Honestly. You always seem to have a lot of comments on your posts and you know that these people genuinely care about you.

Look at the bigger bloggers blogs and it seems to be a scramble to who can be one of the first 10 commenters. No substance to their comment, mainly ‘me too’ or ‘i love you’ or some other drivel. I would rather a few comments of substance than a hundred of them.

Wouldn’t you?

Hi, today is the first time I’ve found your blog, but I love this piece and so I thought I’d comment before continuing on to look around.

I can really relate to this blogging popularity contest because I’m new to blogging and I’ve been doing a lot of cruising blogs, trying to figure out where I fit in and I’ve already found the same thing. This is highschool all over again.

I even had a lovely lass whose blog I read daily try to get me into her stumbling group, but apparently I’m not “mommy” enough. WTF!

So, I’m with you. I can’t be bothered to enter a popularity contest. I am a mum, a wife, a writer, a self-help junkie, a part time alcoholic and an occasional drama queen. So whichever group that puts me, sign me up.

Cheers
Kelly

Kelley, my friend.

I Do appreciate my lovely friends and genuine comments.
That was the whole point of the post. I guess it didn’t come out the right way…

(not my current job):
Colleague-”I don’t like you”
Me: “That’s okay, nobody said you had to”
Colleague: “It doesn’t bother you?”
Me: “No, I have plenty of friends, I don’t need you to like me”
Colleague: Walks off looking puzzled.
The above still applies. I don’t need a huge following. I don’t need to be in the “in” crowd. I’m perfectly happy having a few good friends rather than a world of acquaintances. Just recently I’ve made a few online friends to add to my real life circle. I count you among them. I haven’t met you and probably never will, but you are still my friend. Not because everyone says “oh, she’s great” or anything like that. Just because I like what you write, the way you write it. You feel like a warm loving person with a great sense of humour and to me that’s important.

I wore pink English Broderie to my Grade 7 disco.

Enough said about my coolness.

Love your work!
CB
x

Oh Tiff - you are in my inner circle and I was never popular either !

I’m a Tiff groupie! I’m a Tiff groupie! … So you at least have a groupette… That’s got to count for something! You’re just the sort that fits my idea of an ‘inner circle’ friend and I’ll hang with the T-Girl anytime… Oh, and I actually happen to own a violin, so just say the word

I had a red velour sloppy joe in year 5. Very uncool. If it’s any consolation you’re one of twenty in my “aafriends” folder

I am reading this and my neck hurts from all the nodding. I also was not only not popular, but actively pursued for the purposes of a good beating/humiliation/mocking. I really was the bottom of the totem pole. In high school, I was also the president of the “We don’t fit in” club.

Two different people, on two different days, signed in my yearbook that when they first met me, I scared them.

I also don’t really fit into the mommy cliques, and honestly, I don’t want to. I am new to the mommy blogger world, and WOW. I don’t get it, man.

So no, I do not care to have the popular bloggers reading me and I don’t desire the accolades.

I typed all that to type this.

You are SO wrong. You TOTALLY have one confirmed groupie.

PS: You don’t know what a tootsie roll is? I thought you lived in Australia, not on Mars! (kidding!)

Take a glass of root beer and squirt in a nice big glob of chocolate syrup. Mix well. Drink.

That’s exactly what a Tootsie Roll tastes like. It actually works better with chocolate ICE CREAM and rootbeer as a milkshake.

Why yes, I DID work at a soda fountain for a few years. Why do you ask?

I am so there with you!

I sometimes think I’m on the fringe of the popular groups. I’m rarely, if ever, the centre of attention but I think if I was all the time I’d hate it. I was not popular at school, but I have a great group of friends now and am getting to know more people doing this blogging caper too.