Comments on: Angry http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/ Where chaos reigns supreme. Love, life and everything in between. Thu, 21 Aug 2008 18:59:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Widdle Shamrock http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-2159 Widdle Shamrock Mon, 14 Apr 2008 01:35:22 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-2159 Huge hugs. I haven't visited in ages. But you are now on my blogroll, so I can't forget. I wonder if people can't deal with our grief because they can't 'fix' it for us. Be angry for as long as you need to. Light and love. Nikki Huge hugs.

I haven’t visited in ages. But you are now on my blogroll, so I can’t forget.

I wonder if people can’t deal with our grief because they can’t ‘fix’ it for us.

Be angry for as long as you need to.

Light and love.

Nikki

]]> By: Jessica (aka Rose) http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1951 Jessica (aka Rose) Sat, 05 Apr 2008 01:07:56 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1951 I am shocked and saddened that people can be that insensitive. I can't imagine that you would ever "get over" losing a child, or really that you would ever want to, especially if you feel like the grief is the only thing still connecting you to your baby. I'm so very sorry that you are in this place at this time when so much else is going on. I wish I could help, if only to give you the space you need to focus on William right now. All I can do is send you hugs and the promise that I'm always happy to hear about William if you ever want to share more. I am shocked and saddened that people can be that insensitive. I can’t imagine that you would ever “get over” losing a child, or really that you would ever want to, especially if you feel like the grief is the only thing still connecting you to your baby.

I’m so very sorry that you are in this place at this time when so much else is going on. I wish I could help, if only to give you the space you need to focus on William right now. All I can do is send you hugs and the promise that I’m always happy to hear about William if you ever want to share more.

]]> By: jen http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1950 jen Sat, 05 Apr 2008 01:06:24 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1950 Anger is a part of grief and nobody can tell you how long the process might take. You will never forget William. Anger is a part of grief and nobody can tell you how long the process might take. You will never forget William.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1870 Rebecca Wed, 02 Apr 2008 02:29:08 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1870 Grieve. You'll probably never stop grieving. And that's o.k. Hugs to you... Grieve. You’ll probably never stop grieving. And that’s o.k.

Hugs to you…

]]> By: Dayna http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1862 Dayna Tue, 01 Apr 2008 20:20:51 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1862 Not only do I think you have the right to be angry - I think you have the right to be angry for as long as it takes for you to not be angry. Five days, five years, or five life times. I hope, for your sake, you can allow yourself to be angry for as long as you need to be. My thoughts and prayers, and yes, even my acceptance of whatever it takes for you is with you, now, and always. Not only do I think you have the right to be angry - I think you have the right to be angry for as long as it takes for you to not be angry. Five days, five years, or five life times. I hope, for your sake, you can allow yourself to be angry for as long as you need to be.

My thoughts and prayers, and yes, even my acceptance of whatever it takes for you is with you, now, and always.

]]> By: Trish http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1852 Trish Tue, 01 Apr 2008 12:32:28 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1852 "Anger with the world is a normal part of grief. All I can tell you is that however long it takes to reach that final stage of acceptance, with it will come peace in the knowledge that the part of you that William took with him will remain with him always & he with you. It will become a time to remember & reflect on who William was & what may have been. The realisation will also come that those who have never lost a child cannot EVER understand the complete & utter anguish, sorrow, guilt, self recrimination & feelings of loss & you will finally be able to forgive them their lack of understanding. Until then, just go with your feelings & ride out the storm until the next one comes along. No-one can feel as you do & it’s O.K. to be self -centred about your thoughts & feelings" I so love what 'Mum' wrote of course she is part of the wretched club too ..mothers of dead babies... sweet precious little souls who live on, only in our hearts and briefest of memories. There are too many (not withstanding these beautiful friends here) who will never understand why we continue to grieve them... probably till we die... Let it all out Tiff and draw close to the ones who love you for strength and draw on your own incredible strength my friend. My heart aches for you my dear friend and William ...your beautiful boy “Anger with the world is a normal part of grief. All I can tell you is that however long it takes to reach that final stage of acceptance, with it will come peace in the knowledge that the part of you that William took with him will remain with him always & he with you. It will become a time to remember & reflect on who William was & what may have been. The realisation will also come that those who have never lost a child cannot EVER understand the complete & utter anguish, sorrow, guilt, self recrimination & feelings of loss & you will finally be able to forgive them their lack of understanding. Until then, just go with your feelings & ride out the storm until the next one comes along. No-one can feel as you do & it’s O.K. to be self -centred about your thoughts & feelings”

I so love what ‘Mum’ wrote of course she is part of the wretched club too ..mothers of dead babies… sweet precious little souls who live on, only in our hearts and briefest of memories.

There are too many (not withstanding these beautiful friends here) who will never understand why we continue to grieve them… probably till we die… Let it all out Tiff and draw close to the ones who love you for strength and draw on your own incredible strength my friend.

My heart aches for you my dear friend and William …your beautiful boy

]]> By: frogpondsrock http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1847 frogpondsrock Tue, 01 Apr 2008 10:38:50 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1847 I will be thinking of you tomorrow sweetheart..(((hugs))) I will be thinking of you tomorrow sweetheart..(((hugs)))

]]> By: Tracey http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1846 Tracey Tue, 01 Apr 2008 10:02:38 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1846 I'm not quite arrogant enough to tell you that I understand. Baby steps. I love you. I’m not quite arrogant enough to tell you that I understand.

Baby steps.

I love you.

]]> By: Bettina http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1845 Bettina Tue, 01 Apr 2008 08:53:09 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1845 hugs honey. like others have said, no right, no wrong. How on earth can anyone expect you to "get over it"? seeesh that kind of bullshit makes me wanna take to something with an axe. You be angry all you like. And we'll make all the allowances you need. hugs honey.

like others have said, no right, no wrong.

How on earth can anyone expect you to “get over it”? seeesh that kind of bullshit makes me wanna take to something with an axe.

You be angry all you like.

And we’ll make all the allowances you need.

]]> By: Amy http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1843 Amy Tue, 01 Apr 2008 06:10:52 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/03/angry/#comment-1843 I'm sorry, Tiff, that I am one who doesn't understand. How could I possibly know the depth of suffering you experience? What I do know is that no one who knew William will ever 'get over' his death, least of all the one who brought him into this life. My thoughts are with you and with Dave. In such a short time he changed everyone around him. I am still discovering how he has changed my thinking on so many things - parenthood, birth, mind, body and spirit. He deserves to be missed, loved, talked about, grieved. In your honesty and your courage, and in your grief you honour him. xx I’m sorry, Tiff, that I am one who doesn’t understand. How could I possibly know the depth of suffering you experience?
What I do know is that no one who knew William will ever ‘get over’ his death, least of all the one who brought him into this life. My thoughts are with you and with Dave.
In such a short time he changed everyone around him. I am still discovering how he has changed my thinking on so many things - parenthood, birth, mind, body and spirit. He deserves to be missed, loved, talked about, grieved. In your honesty and your courage, and in your grief you honour him. xx

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