Comments on: More thoughts… and an update on the ugly. http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:41:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Posts of the Month (Not mine!) | Planning With Kids http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-2824 Posts of the Month (Not mine!) | Planning With Kids Mon, 12 May 2008 03:12:58 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-2824 [...] More thoughts and an update on the ugly. A mum doing what all mum’s do at some point and second guessing herself. [...] […] More thoughts and an update on the ugly. A mum doing what all mum’s do at some point and second guessing herself. […]

]]> By: Tiff http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1095 Tiff Mon, 25 Feb 2008 00:19:25 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1095 I want to thank each and every one of you. Your comments, your stories, your advice is so precious to me and to David too. He cannot believe the outpouring of care that comes our way. We are truly grateful. I want to thank each and every one of you.
Your comments, your stories, your advice is so precious to me and to David too.
He cannot believe the outpouring of care that comes our way. We are truly grateful.

]]> By: Velvet Verbosity http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1087 Velvet Verbosity Sun, 24 Feb 2008 18:52:28 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1087 I'm new here so I don't yet know the fully story, but my God what a heartbreaking story! I am sorry for your loss, and I can understand how it would make you second-guess everything else. Just know that motherhood is inherently and by nature full of guilt and second-guessing. While I haven't lost a child to death, I have lost both of my children's "innocence" potential. When I started out having my babies, I thought I would bring them up in a certain way, free from too many hardships, full of love and security, stability and peace. It didn't turn out that way. I had married young and to a man who was abusive. My children are scarred, we are left to take care of ourselves, and we are always struggling, always struggling. I'm never the mom I wanted to be. Our life is so far from what I achingly wish for. Sometimes I can't bear to look at it all. I'm sorry for talking about my own situation. I am not trying to deflect from yours. This is just simply to say that life is often exquisitely painful, and we mothers bear so much burden of it in order to try to protect our children. I am sorry for your grief and your doubts. Thank you for sharing this. Thank you for working through it. I’m new here so I don’t yet know the fully story, but my God what a heartbreaking story! I am sorry for your loss, and I can understand how it would make you second-guess everything else. Just know that motherhood is inherently and by nature full of guilt and second-guessing.

While I haven’t lost a child to death, I have lost both of my children’s “innocence” potential. When I started out having my babies, I thought I would bring them up in a certain way, free from too many hardships, full of love and security, stability and peace. It didn’t turn out that way. I had married young and to a man who was abusive. My children are scarred, we are left to take care of ourselves, and we are always struggling, always struggling. I’m never the mom I wanted to be. Our life is so far from what I achingly wish for. Sometimes I can’t bear to look at it all.

I’m sorry for talking about my own situation. I am not trying to deflect from yours. This is just simply to say that life is often exquisitely painful, and we mothers bear so much burden of it in order to try to protect our children. I am sorry for your grief and your doubts. Thank you for sharing this. Thank you for working through it.

]]> By: Jayne http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1079 Jayne Sun, 24 Feb 2008 14:24:55 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1079 ((hugs)) You are a strong woman. You are a sensible carer. You are a wonderful mother. Follow your gut instincts. Put your foot down and refuse another biopsy. They got a perfect one last time, they can't keep inflicting pain and scars on her just because they can't pigeon hole her case from a text book. You have every right to challenge and question their decisions, do <b>not</b> ever let them make you feel like you're in the wrong - doctors do that to cover up the fact that they don't have answers. ((hugs))
You are a strong woman.
You are a sensible carer.
You are a wonderful mother.
Follow your gut instincts.
Put your foot down and refuse another biopsy. They got a perfect one last time, they can’t keep inflicting pain and scars on her just because they can’t pigeon hole her case from a text book.
You have every right to challenge and question their decisions, do not ever let them make you feel like you’re in the wrong - doctors do that to cover up the fact that they don’t have answers.

]]> By: PlanningQueen http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1077 PlanningQueen Sun, 24 Feb 2008 12:10:10 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1077 I have only been reading your blog for a short time and cannot believe how hard the system seems to make it for you guys to help Ivy. It is awful for Ivy, but as a mum it must be a terrible thing for you to have to stand by and see her endure this as well. I have only been reading your blog for a short time and cannot believe how hard the system seems to make it for you guys to help Ivy. It is awful for Ivy, but as a mum it must be a terrible thing for you to have to stand by and see her endure this as well.

]]> By: Widdle Shamrock http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1065 Widdle Shamrock Sun, 24 Feb 2008 04:57:06 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1065 **Hugs** Parallel Universe ~ You've got it right !!!! Your thoughts are my thoughts !!! What buggers for poor Ivy. Do the doctors actually know what they are doing?? **Hugs**

Parallel Universe ~ You’ve got it right !!!! Your thoughts are my thoughts !!!

What buggers for poor Ivy. Do the doctors actually know what they are doing??

]]> By: Sadie http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1061 Sadie Sat, 23 Feb 2008 20:45:19 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1061 You are stronger than I am...I would have scratched their eyes out!!! It's hard when you are feeling helpless, I know that feeling well. I do not know the depths of despair you have faced, and are currently facing...but I know the helpless feeling. I'll pray for your strength and for the ease of the upcoming events (the blistering, the biopsy, etc). If I could I'd fly my butt around the world and yell at those doctors for you. *huggles* You ARE doing what you can...just take it one day at a time, one step at a time!! You are stronger than I am…I would have scratched their eyes out!!!

It’s hard when you are feeling helpless, I know that feeling well. I do not know the depths of despair you have faced, and are currently facing…but I know the helpless feeling.

I’ll pray for your strength and for the ease of the upcoming events (the blistering, the biopsy, etc). If I could I’d fly my butt around the world and yell at those doctors for you.

*huggles* You ARE doing what you can…just take it one day at a time, one step at a time!!

]]> By: cellobella http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1060 cellobella Sat, 23 Feb 2008 16:51:38 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1060 ((hugs)) ((hugs))

]]> By: Bettina http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1059 Bettina Sat, 23 Feb 2008 13:58:00 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1059 :o How dare they talk around you as if you weren't really there!! That's outrageous. Sigh. I really hope the whole situation starts to improve soon hon. Have a pressie for you on my blog too. I hope it encourages you just a little. :o How dare they talk around you as if you weren’t really there!! That’s outrageous. Sigh. I really hope the whole situation starts to improve soon hon.

Have a pressie for you on my blog too. I hope it encourages you just a little.

]]> By: Kelley http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1058 Kelley Sat, 23 Feb 2008 13:42:44 +0000 http://www.mythreeringcircus.com/2008/02/more-thoughts-and-an-update-on-the-ugly/#comment-1058 Babe. I don't know what to say. When I blog about Boo, I am not looking for sympathy or pity, just a sounding board. I think that is what you have done today. You know we are all there for you. You know we all sit here in frustration with you. Keep talking. Keep posting. I will keep listening. Babe. I don’t know what to say. When I blog about Boo, I am not looking for sympathy or pity, just a sounding board. I think that is what you have done today.

You know we are all there for you. You know we all sit here in frustration with you.

Keep talking. Keep posting. I will keep listening.

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