Comments on: Better, and yet?

By: childlife

childlife — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 04:35:01 +0000

You’re not crazy, Tiff - you just love your kids. Fiercely. When they hurt, you hurt with them. You want to fix it and it’s torture when you can’t. I told you this once of William, and I think it’s true of Ivy too. God knew they needed something extra. He knew you would love them like they deserve to be loved. He knew that you would fight for them. So keep fighting. Even when it’s scary. Even when you inch up to that terrible cliff and take a long peek over the edge. We can’t help peeking now and then - we love them. We care what happens. Just don’t set up camp and live there OK??? The rent’s too expensive Sweetie. I know you can do this. You’re the perfect Mommy for Ivy. No one else could be what she needs, and you’re doing one amazing job!

By: Jayne

Jayne — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 13:16:54 +0000

Motherhood sucks. We get all the golden times, with smiles, laughter and treasured moments but the mongrel universal account-ledger has to balance out so we get the crappiest, saddest, most stressful shyte no one on this earth would tolerate in a paid position.
But Mums do, every day.
Hang in there ((hugs))

By: frogpondsrock

frogpondsrock — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 10:53:57 +0000

There is a pressie for you on my blog xxx

By: river

river — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 07:21:02 +0000

I pray that your fears are unfounded.

By: frogpondsrock

frogpondsrock — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 07:17:58 +0000

Oh Sweetheart (((HUGS))) If you didn’t have those thoughts and feelings you wouldn’t be human..

You are doing a great job.. You are an awesome Mum …. xoxoxoxoxoxox

Kim xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

By: Veronica

Veronica — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 23:11:46 +0000

Oh sweety.

I have a block of chocolate here for you, just as soon as I get near a post office

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 20:25:09 +0000

oh hon….. i’m hoping for the best …

By: Betsy

Betsy — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 14:52:30 +0000

Normal, normal and normal for a mom to feel this way. We are supposed to offer comfort and solutions to our wee ones.

I found this website, I don’t know if you will find it helpful. My thoughts have been singularly focused on you and Ivy so I do hope this will be helpful for you and ultimately for her. http://www.uoregon.edu/~sshapiro/Pemphigus/TableOfContents.html

By: Trish

Trish — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 13:52:15 +0000

Ah Tiff … yes - breathe, think calm blue seas….I think I know exactly what you mean because I have the same fears for all my children but after Will & Charlotte is it any wonder we can totally relax and trust our children will be okay .
It helps to get if off your chest though.
I know you had those dreams about N & I when you were pregnant and it was all okay …though premature not the other ones.
So we can only hold Ivy in our thoughts and prayers that she will overcome this and give it everything she has got to beat it into remission.

I can feel your pain and after seeing poor Ivy’s bum it is worse than I imagined (but better now IYKWIM) - hang in there . Ivy is a tough cookie and she can use a little more beef.
She is still the most adorable little princess in my eyes.
All your children are beautiful, well behaved and a tribute to your wonderful care and mummy powers.

By: Kelley

Kelley — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 13:31:30 +0000

breathe babe. breathe.

These are normal, albeit frustrating, feelings of a mother feeling out of control. Normal. Totally normal.

As mums we are supposed to be able to kiss the boo boo’s and fix everything. Especially when they are little. And you can’t. You are doing everything that you can. But it doesn’t stop the late night crazies taking over and making you hit your head against the virtual brick wall.

Breathe babe. I understand and feel your pain. Just keep writing.